10-DAY PRENATAL CONVERSATION GUIDE
10-Day Prenatal Conversation Guide
Grab the conversation guide I wish somebody handed to us during our first pregnancy
"When the pressure is on, you don't rise to the occasion; you fall to your highest level of preparation."
- Chris Voss (Former FBI hostage negotiator and author of "Never Split the Difference"
Why I created this Guide
Because the younger mum-to-be me five years ago would appreciate this.
Five years ago when my husband and I were expecting our first child, we did everything we could to prepare for the baby. The nursery, baby essentials, infant care - you name it, we did it. Little did we know we were least prepared for the part that mattered most - our marriage.
Five years later (including spending three years rebuilding our marriage from rock bottom amidst parenthood), I see clearly the gap between what the Internet sold to us and what's actually needed for us to build a flourishing family. This Guide is my first attempt to fill the gap.
Who is this Guide for
If you fall under one of these categories, this Guide is for you:
You are expecting a child and you've prepared to welcome your baby, but not your marriage intentionally.
You are expecting and sensing a quiet misalignment between you and your spouse that you can't name.
You have watched other couples drift after kids into roommates running a household, and you don't want that to happen to you.
You're expecting your second child, and this time you want to walk into parenthood on purpose, not by accident.
You're already parenting and realising the conversations you never had are showing up everywhere, weighing on your marriage.
You're ready to work on your marriage, but your spouse isn't there yet, and you need an entry point simple enough to begin together.
What's in this Guide
Ten topics of conversation:
Marriage vision · Childcare arrangement · Parenting values · Boundaries with extended family · Sharing responsibilities · Protecting unity · Money and provision · Identity shift after parenthood · Intimacy after baby · Communication
Inside each day:
2- 3 guided questions to talk through together
One small practical action you can start on right away
Dedicated space to write both your answers down
For my Christian followers, a short prayer and Bible verse to close each day
"Our Family Constitution":
At the end, the guide walks you through gathering your ten commitments you've written across the days onto one page. The "Family Constitution" is a reminder to you when the season gets hard and feelings run thin, what you've promised each other in the beginning. It helps you recall who you and your spouse actually are, and what you really want for the family.
This Guide is NOT meant to shield you from future conflicts - because nothing ever will - but it will help you take the first step towards building a strong family foundation.
Whenever you are ready, submit your details below and the full guide will land in your inbox. Happy talking!